Change Starts NOW (Pt 2. And this is autobiographical)

So like I said in Part 1, a few years ago I was in a pretty dire place. Things had to change, and only I could change them.

I started with my phone.

My phone, like yours, represents a gateway to the outside world and shows who’ll be out there waiting once you’ve connected with that outside world.

If I can go back to Part 1 once more, I mentioned how I was surrounded by losers, but that may have been overly harsh. Most were losers – and I mean complete wastes of blood and vital organs contributing nothing of consequence to the world at large. One is a great guy but he takes absolutely nothing in life seriously. He thinks he does, but he doesn’t. He wants to run his own business but doesn’t put the time in on the really important stuff (Or a lot of the less important stuff, come to think of it). He’ll blow out business meetings because a mate’s just got into town or his girlfriend has called. Most of his friends are just millstones around his neck, and are actively preventing him reaching his full potential. And the worse thing is, as much as you try to tell him and as much as he sits and listens politely, you know he’s not taking me seriously.

A couple were just bad people, plain and simple. Ripping off my ideas, lying about and to me, and generally making me miserable. The vast majority of my contacts fell under the heading of not bad people. Just bad for me. They were fun to be around, great for a laugh, perfect for huddling together with and moaning about things you were too scared to change, but they added absolutely nothing of value to my life. Strangely, as funny as many of them were they were also incredibly negative. In fact, unintentionally or otherwise, they were actually holding me back.

Whatever, they all came off my phone regardless. I never answer unknown numbers or numbers without a name attached (Even if I recognise the number, I know there’s a good reason I took the name off my phone in the first place. What’s the point of removing the contact if you’re going to answer their call anyway?).

I was determined to make sure that the people in my new contacts were positive, cool, empowering and supportive. People who would have the same kind of influence on my life, as I would on theirs. And every slot on my sim card taken up by one of my old crowd, meant I had no room for the people I wanted to meet and be with.

Including my mum, I think I had about 5 names left on my phone. Kind of depressing, when you thought about it!

Was it tough? Was it harsh to just delete all my “friends”? (Note quotation marks). Am I some kind of snob for doing it? The answer to all 3 questions is YES.

And I wholeheartedly recommend it.

So where am I going with all this?  Part 3 to follow…

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