Change Starts NOW (Pt 3. The Plot Thickens…)

This part is built around 2 essential ingredients that run through the entire Full Contact Living system:

1. No two things can occupy the same space – whether physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual.
2. Like attracts like. (The old “Birds of a feather…” cliche. Just because it’s cheesy, doesn’t make it any less true)

Keep these in mind as we continue…

There are probably a lot of people in your world that, as there were in my world, aren’t necessarily bad people. Just bad for you. Either intentionally or without meaning to, these people are holding you back. Regardless of how funny they may be, how quick they are to stand their round at the club on a saturday night or cool they are with sharing their weed with you.

Here’s some handy benchmarks to use, though feel free to swap the names I use for ones more meaningful to you. Pick someone from your contacts:

• George Clooney calls you and invites you to his monthly poker evening. He wouldn’t usually ask this of someone he doesn’t know, but he really liked you when you chatted last week at that premier. Brad, Matt, and Quentin will all be there and you’ve got a +1 to keep the numbers right. Would you feel comfortable – 100% cool – with bringing your contact along? Do they have the social skills and necessary character to not blow it and make the pair of you look like chumps?
• You’ve set your sights on becoming an entrepreneur. A millionaire business owner. Are you comfortable telling your contact “I’m going to be a millionaire in 5 years“, or would you rather keep it to yourself because you know they would just make fun of you and talk you out of it?
• Pick someone you truly admire, alive or dead, from history or someone you’ve met. Can you see them sitting on your sofa next to your contact?
• Would you trust your contact with your house keys?

I could go on.

Remembering that every slot on your phone’s memory is valuable, you need to purge it of negativity just as much as you need to similarly purge your life. Every slot occupied by someone who can’t or won’t help you be all you can be is a slot that can’t be taken by a hero or role model. Two things can’t occupy the same place, remember?

Millionaires don’t hang out with guys who sit around smoking weed and playing guitar hero into the small hours. Artists don’t spend significant time with people who think it’s weird to read books. Athletes don’t waste time with “friends” who just want to sit in front of the Jeremy Kyle show and eat Doritos all day. None of this is coincidence. Successful people hang out with successful people. They are inspired by their friends, and in turn inspire them back. Because like attracts like, remember?

Looking through your contacts list now, and bearing in mind that like attracts like, could you honestly see names like Donald Trump, Ryan Reynolds, Damien Hurst, James Patterson, Larry King, Oprah Winfrey – whoever your heroes are – on your contacts list, side by side with the names that are on there right now?

Within 1 year of purging my phone, my contact list – and the people who inhabit my world – is considerably different. Whiners, wasters, liars, nay-sayers, cowards are out. Way out.

Authors, world famous entertainers, martial arts legends, speakers, renowned hypnotists and business leaders are in. Real friends and inspirations whom I’m privileged to call my friend. Any of whom I’d bring round George’s place.

Enough to get you thinking?

Wrapping this up tomorrow.

 

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